Never Date Someone Who…

  1. Break promises -They would only break promises if he doesn’t care about the relationship
  2. Hates animals- If they don’t enjoy the presence of an animals, it means that they have no empathy.
  3. Give you secondary treatment- They should treat you as their priority, not another option
  4. Claims that they are always right- They would go to extreme lengths to prove his point. Even if it’s wrong.
  5. Makes excuses- They are making excuses for everything means they have taken you for granted. Time to proven them wrong.
  6. Keeps the fight alive- Fights happen in every relationship. They are just things that you guys will not agree with but when the fights start to linger, and they continue to remind you of them, it’s not a good sign.
  7. Kills the conversation – They do not value your opinions if they are always cutting you off.
  8. Is a compulsive liar- They do not know the basic building block of a relationship trust
  9. Is clingy- They can’t understand the concept of personal space. You’ll be caged your entire life.
  10. Runs away from family responsibilities- If they forget their parents, they can easily forget you! Beware!
  11. Has a narrow mindset- They will not see the truth in different things, but only the differences
  12. Is abusive- Your relationship should be a safe haven, not a battlefield
  13. Is immature in their affairs- If they are used to cutting people off for no reason, they will cut you loose sooner or later.
  14. Disregards the relationship rules- if they don’t follow the rules you both have set then they don’t respect you.
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Benefits of Prayer

These are just some things that prayer has done for me and mine.

1.      Prayer protects us.

2.      Prayer changes things.

3.       Prayer keeps you in the Will of God.

4.      Prayer draws you closer to God.

5.      Prayer makes me happy.

6.      Prayer gives you Hope.

7.       Prayer makes you less selfish.

8.      Prayer heals you from all pain.

9.      Prayer makes you stronger spiritually.

10.  Prayer gives us peace.

Tips for Freshmans

  1. Believe in yourself.- You are going to be your biggest supporter anyway at the end of it all. No one is going to take care of you better then you.
  2. Focus on what you want.- You can’t please everyone. So just make sure that your star player is happy.
  3. Think big.- The bigger the better. The sky is the limit.
  4. Set goals.- Have a motive.
  5. Do what excites you.- LIVE.
  6. Visualize positive outcomes.- Your mindset needs to be positive to have positive outcomes.
  7. Don’t hate.- Love conquers all.
  8. Do everything with love.- It will help you in the long run.
  9. Make time to relax.- YES! Stress kills.
  10. Enjoy life.
  11. Choose empowering beliefs.- Positive mentality.
  12. Feed your mind and body good stuff.- Positive Vibes.
  13. Meditate.- Trust me on this.
  14. Be grateful for what you have.- Be humble. Someone has less then you.
  15. Be kind.- It will help you in the long run.
  16. Don’t compare yourself to others.- YOU ARE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE. NO ONE CAN BE A BETTER YOU.
  17. Be honest.
  18. Work hard.- GRIND.
  19. Work smart.- GRIND.
  20. Find your “why”.- You have a purpose.
  21. Invest in yourself.- Because you are the best investment.
  22. Practice positive self-talk.- Positive mentality will get you though those times.
  23. Get your priorities straight.- THIS IS A MUST!
  24. Never give up.- FIGHT through those hard times. The reward will be worth it.

Remember: Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep the faith. It will be worth it in the end.

My Next Victim or My One and Only

Whoever and wherever you may be. I look forward to meeting you or I am proud to have you in my life. But I just wanted to let you know if you don’t already know that I don’t half ass things in my life… especially love. So if or when you love me, I’m the one who loves hard. So if or when you love me, I’m going to love you deeply and only you. Unlike most of the people in this generation… I know how to love the “right way”. I love like no other and when or if I do love you I will change your life, if you are able to digeste it.

No relationship is easy. I’m going to test you. You can test me too. I just want to see if you are even worth the time. If you are worthy of my love. My version of loving the “right way” includes and requires loving equally. I have loved a lot of people who could not match my love. Which is fine, pain means strength and knowledge of what and who I want. I know love can be one of the best things we have in this lifetime. I don’t want perfect, I want honest. But are you willing to risk getting hurt and take chances for the relationship we deserve? I know I am, in hopes you can love me back.

In loving you the “right way”, I give the absolute best of myself and cannot fear pain. You can say “I will never hurt you” but love is a gamble and I know this. In a world full of liars, we need to be upfront people. So I am going to do that now. The best quality about me is that I know how to love. With that said I will never intentionally hurt you. Unlike the others in our generation I want us to work. I want to have that relationship like in the movies. I had one once and I know all the challenges we have to face. We need to have trust and faith in each other. I know that means letting your guard down, being vulnerable, and having blind trust in someone.

Let’s talk about what hurt you in the past. I will tell you mine and all the scratches and marks that came with it. I will even tell you every detail of how and why they happened. It is scary I know, I’m not asking you to do that right way but when the time comes and when it does you will love me more for having to endure such pain and still being able to smile. I can teach you to get along and love your carcasses, instead of resenting them. I will except you at your worst and show you how to love someone at their lowest point.

I do not know if I am easy to love due to my value of love. I am very sheltered. I don’t trust a lot of people. I know it has nothing to do with you but with my past. I have learned that when you love to easy many people do not know how to return it or respond to it. I love really hard and not even the worst misery can change that.

If you are willing to take that risk with me, I assure you it will be worth it. It is going to be a roller-coaster. In a society that communicates to only love with half of our heart, I cannot do so. I’m the girl that takes love to a whole new level. Just a limited of things I must ask for, be patient with me. I am very guarded. Trust me first, then I will start trusting you. I am not an easy person to love but if or when you do, I will love you deeper then no other and I will teach you to love better.

My Rules for a Happy Marriage

1.      Never both be angry at the same time.

2.      Never bring up mistakes of the past.

3.      Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.

4.      If one of you has to win an argument let it be your mate.

5.      If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.

6.      Neglect the world rather than each other.

7.      Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

8.      At least once a day trying to say one kind or complimentary thing to your partner.

9.      When you have done something wrong be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.

10.  It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.  

The Visit from an Old Friend

One day he is going to stubble across your Instagram page and see that you are doing real well. You received that promotion. You just purchased that new car. He notices that you are smiling just like he remembers you used to do for him. Then he is going to find himself about a hundred and twenty five weeks in on your page and see that you are doing really good. He is going to try to hit you up and your number is going to be changed. He is going to try to email you and that is going to be changed too. Then he is going to show up at your old house but finds out that love doesn’t live there no more and a hater at your job is going to give him your new address and he is going to pop up there. You are going to answer the door. You are going to look at him and say “what are you doing here?” He is going to tell you “I’m here to get you back.” You are going to look him in the eye and say “It’s too late.” He is going to try to push the door open and you are going to have a pregnant stomach. When he looks at your stomach and sees your hand. He will notice that you have a ring on your finger. Your husband is going to call you from the other room. “Babe is everything alright?” You are going to respond “Yeah just an old friend.” Your husband isn’t even going to come out and bother with you because he trusts you. That is when you turn to your ex and say “It’s too late.”

Mind- Blown TED Talk About Our School System

I was watching a TED Talk that was explaining where our education system has come from and how we use it today. Our school system has always told children that if they work hard, do well, and get a college degree that they will get a job. Well we all know that this isn’t the case now. Yes, it better to have a degree then not but that degree doesn’t guarantee a job. “The current system was designed… for a different age; [which was] the intellectual culture of the Enlightenment and economic circumstances of the Industrial Revolution.”( Ken Robinson: Changing Education Paradigms) What is Robinson trying to tell us? Is he trying to say that our school system was organized like a factory? Yes, that is exactly what he is trying to tell us. Let me go back to high school for a minute, they had bells to let you know when you were dismissed from a class and when you needed to move to the next subject. Bells in the factory let workers know when they can go to lunch or when they are dismissed from work. Schools have different buildings for different subject. Factories have different areas for different jobs. Instead of factorizing education why not try to make it broader. How? Robinson calls this idea “Divergent Thinking”. Divergent Thinking is looked down upon because schools ask a question and expect one answer. Children with divergent thinking come up with different ways to interpreting the question and the possible answers. Divergent Thinking makes educators have to think differently about human capacity [and]… get over the conception of academic, non-academic, abstract, theoretical, [and] educational and see it for what it is. A MYTH!”