Fondness

I knew exactly what love looked like in the 7th grade even thought I have never met love before. If love have wondered into my homeroom I would have recognized him at first glance. Love wore a football jersey. Love played the piano and played all my favorite slow songs. Love wasn’t afraid to sit next to me at lunch. I know I would have been checking the wrong hallway and classrooms. But if only I could find him. When love finally showed up he wore not only a football jersey but a baseball jersey as well. Love hated eating lunch and knew nothing about my favorite slow songs. Instead every time I would try to kiss love we would realize where we were and stop because of the situation that we were both in. Love became the reason why I lied to my parents like “I’m going to spend the night at Chabela’s house”. Love had amazing rhythm on the dance floor that all the adults would have a turn to dance with him. Then love disappeared slowly like a slug crossing the street, losing parts of myself that I thought I needed. Love vanished like the magician everyone can see except me. Love stayed away for years but when love came back I didn’t recognize him. Love smelled different now and he had a broader back with different scars I didn’t recognize. Love had songs that reminded him of… someone else. So did I. We found a bench that fit us perfectly. We found jokes that made us laugh. Love is a horrible navigator but a great driver. Love is cleaner now. Turns out love shits and love cries. Love will tell me that I’m beautiful and mean it. Over and over again: when I have just woken up, been crying, don’t want to hear it, don’t believe it, when no one else tells you. Love will still think that you are beautiful. Remember that love isn’t perfect and will forget when you need to hear it most. Love isn’t who you are expecting or what you predict. There are times that love isn’t ready for you or you are not ready for love. Sometimes love shouldn’t come when he is “supposed” to or love leaves exactly when he must. So when love comes welcome him. And if love leaves turn your music up and listen to the quiet because you will never know when love is going to come knocking on your door ready to stay.  

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Tips for Freshmans

  1. Believe in yourself.- You are going to be your biggest supporter anyway at the end of it all. No one is going to take care of you better then you.
  2. Focus on what you want.- You can’t please everyone. So just make sure that your star player is happy.
  3. Think big.- The bigger the better. The sky is the limit.
  4. Set goals.- Have a motive.
  5. Do what excites you.- LIVE.
  6. Visualize positive outcomes.- Your mindset needs to be positive to have positive outcomes.
  7. Don’t hate.- Love conquers all.
  8. Do everything with love.- It will help you in the long run.
  9. Make time to relax.- YES! Stress kills.
  10. Enjoy life.
  11. Choose empowering beliefs.- Positive mentality.
  12. Feed your mind and body good stuff.- Positive Vibes.
  13. Meditate.- Trust me on this.
  14. Be grateful for what you have.- Be humble. Someone has less then you.
  15. Be kind.- It will help you in the long run.
  16. Don’t compare yourself to others.- YOU ARE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE. NO ONE CAN BE A BETTER YOU.
  17. Be honest.
  18. Work hard.- GRIND.
  19. Work smart.- GRIND.
  20. Find your “why”.- You have a purpose.
  21. Invest in yourself.- Because you are the best investment.
  22. Practice positive self-talk.- Positive mentality will get you though those times.
  23. Get your priorities straight.- THIS IS A MUST!
  24. Never give up.- FIGHT through those hard times. The reward will be worth it.

Remember: Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep the faith. It will be worth it in the end.

The One Who Likes To Be Benched

I love you so much! Okay, now that is said. You are the most beautiful, smart, outgoing, free-spirited, crazy, loud, aggravating, and annoying person I ever met. I had a pleasure entering your life and becoming a big part of your life. I have shared the most important love in my life. Softball. We have shared amazing crazy and fun moments. Our car rides to my games and back home were so creative and inappropriate. Your mom catered to me and made me gain thousand more pounds and then danced them all off with me. We started claiming each other. Just to show how much our friendship has grown. Thank you for having my back and being the only real friend this past year. You are seriously the one of the few people I can be myself with. You have seen literally all sides of me and you love all of me. I honestly don’t think I can live without you bugging the hell out of me and I love you so much Montoya.

Mind- Blown TED Talk About Our School System

I was watching a TED Talk that was explaining where our education system has come from and how we use it today. Our school system has always told children that if they work hard, do well, and get a college degree that they will get a job. Well we all know that this isn’t the case now. Yes, it better to have a degree then not but that degree doesn’t guarantee a job. “The current system was designed… for a different age; [which was] the intellectual culture of the Enlightenment and economic circumstances of the Industrial Revolution.”( Ken Robinson: Changing Education Paradigms) What is Robinson trying to tell us? Is he trying to say that our school system was organized like a factory? Yes, that is exactly what he is trying to tell us. Let me go back to high school for a minute, they had bells to let you know when you were dismissed from a class and when you needed to move to the next subject. Bells in the factory let workers know when they can go to lunch or when they are dismissed from work. Schools have different buildings for different subject. Factories have different areas for different jobs. Instead of factorizing education why not try to make it broader. How? Robinson calls this idea “Divergent Thinking”. Divergent Thinking is looked down upon because schools ask a question and expect one answer. Children with divergent thinking come up with different ways to interpreting the question and the possible answers. Divergent Thinking makes educators have to think differently about human capacity [and]… get over the conception of academic, non-academic, abstract, theoretical, [and] educational and see it for what it is. A MYTH!”